Over the years as a ReUnion facilitator, I have had many clients who wanted something - clients who wanted to get pregnant, who wanted to find a partner, who wanted to have money, etc…
So it might be interesting to look at this word ‘wanting’. It stems from the old english vanta ‘to be lacking’. Thus, wanting is the opposite of having. By wanting something, it is rather like trying to stand up and sit down at the same time - the more you want, by definition the more you lack.
Our natural state, noble self, divine and creating self, is naturally happy and free - wanting makes us unhappy and unfree because we are creating lack.
A typical problem cycle can be seen developing in our life as we want our way through it, a cycle that goes from ‘I don’t have’ to ‘I can’t have’:
1) Problem (’I don’t have’) - 2) My desire to have - 3) My hope for having - 4) My forces kick in as the accumulated programming of the ancestral or other life identities within me react to this hope for having - 5) I use effort to enforce hope over the thrall of these programmings - 6) I do not get what I want and I am disappointed - 7) Now the problem becomes more solid and I feel despair, anxiety, anger, or rejection (= I can’t have)!
We’ve all heard the phrase ‘The rich get richer, the poor get poorer’. A rich person doesn’t want money, he has the knowledge that it is his already, thus he can decide to create more money. On the other hand, a poor person wants money, enters the above problem cycle, thus creating lack and no money. A similar illustration can sometimes be seen for a woman who wants to get pregnant, gives up and adopts, and then gets pregnant - might it be it is because she has taken the want off?
Therefore we need to get out of this paradoxical effort-counter effort problem cycle and hang our hearts on something firmer than the “I must have - I can’t have”
First, we have to differentiate between wishing and deciding … For example, you can wish to go to the movies, but you’ll only do so when you decide to go to the movies.
DESIRING - Desire arises from a decision confronted and wrapped by a screens of inherited or other life forces.
DECIDING - Decision is creation by the true self. It feels like inspiration.
If you want anything at all, you can have it, provide you can let go of the created pressure of wanting it. Decide without desiring, just TRUST - don’t try to figure how, it’s an effortless decision - then let it go and be inspired. Wish it so, drop all concern and go forward with unworried trust.
Problem cycles take up room in our life, away from the present, and thrust us into endless concern about the future based on the disappointments of the past.
But if you’ve ever wanted something, and then forgot about it, and then got it ‘out of the blue’, you will understand what is meant about wishing and then going forward with unworried trust. The key is to stop worrying.
‘Believe, dream, will….and then put it in the hands of God.’ Norman Vincent Peale
By the way, do not use time targets. Attainment is decision then TRUST with no conditions, no control.
If you can envision and love it without wanting it to happen, it can happen. Become free of the hidden agenda of making it happen (the agenda that underlies so many of the affirmation and envisioning programs popular today).
Ultimately, the key to attainment, to your freedom, is recognizing that it is you, held in problem cycles, that is giving power to the creation of your unwanted realities. We must ultimately recognize that it is impossible not to be a creator all the time, and God simply loves you and cooperates with you, whatever state you create. Your life always has been a demonstration of this.
One purpose of ReUnion, then, is to find our freedom as a high self, that creates by vision, decision and trust. ReUnion sessions allow us to understand and master those inherited and otherwise absorbed forces that create by desire, and replace them with the clear light of decision and trust; and thus we become better able to master our circumstances.
Iin ReUnion we go beyond want, we understand that there is a constant flow of creation, a sacred embrace always with us, and that the inventor (God) creates inventors (our high selves) that then create the inventor (God paradigms). What we Surrender to in ReUnion, however, is that which is the source of this whole process, the deep mystery, not an invented paradigm of God.
Even knowing all this, why do we still find ourselves feverishly wanting? Perhaps because our whole culture and background is based on wanting, driven by the corporate mass creation of want, desire and consumption. And this only further creates the stress of the resulting above mentioned problem cycle of wanting. Thus it is that in ReUnion, after seeing the roots of all this within us, we begin to recover our freedom from such want.
This ‘wanting’ is also the key is to understanding why we have created and collected so many ancestral and other life identities that we find speaking in our ReUnion session. It is the basic paradox of existence - that we turn being into wanting to be something
When Buddha tells us that in order to be happy and find inner peace and serenity, we must have no desires; he doesn’t say not to have. What he seemed to be talking about was going beyond the limitations of identity and not needing to be something and trusting our vision
It is well known that the brain ‘lights up’ in reaction to inner or outer circumstances, whether those circumstances are real or imaginary. It can’t tell the difference. So who decides what is real or imaginary? We, our high selves, free of identities, are deciders of what is real!
If we are deciders then there is choice, and if there is choice, there is freedom.
It is only when you know to decide things, versus wanting things, that you can relax or rest in this world. Building an intensity of clear and unworried decision making is an important skill. And just like pushing a swing repeatedly, each time making it go higher, each ReUnion session gradually increases the power and clarity of our high self’s decisions by removing the ‘want’ of past identities.
At the feeling level, this is total trust - it is to love what the situation is now, be inspired (decision)… and loving what the situation becomes from that decision, without urgency or enforcement. Trust in yourself, and in the divine presence that is with you, and your life shall become full and complete.
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